During my time as an escort in Den Haag I’ve received many compliments from clients. However some compliments, however well meant, can have the effect of turning a woman off rather than turning her on. Here’s a few, I’ve received over the years.
When I first started escorting in Den Haag I was often told “oh you look so young!” Now as most young women spend the majority of their teenage years slapping makeup on the their faces to make themselves look older, we don’t want to be told that we still look like a teenager. Of course, now that I’m older, I don’t mind in the least when someone tells me that I look young – in fact, I positively love it.
“You look lovely when you smile” – now although this sounds like a compliment, somehow it suggests that I don’t look lovely when I’m not smiling. Since it’s impossible for me to walk around with a permanent grin for 24 hours a day, does that mean that I don’t look lovely for the vast majority of the day? And of course being told to smile or cheer up is one of the worst things you can say.
“You’ve got a great personality”. I guess all you guys are wondering what’s wrong with saying this. Don’t women prefer not to be judged on looks alone? But saying this to someone who relies on her looks to be successful in her job can trigger all kinds of negative thoughts such as “does he think I’m not attractive?” If you want to compliment an escort on her personality, it might be best to introduce it by saying, “you’re not only gorgeous, but you’ve got a great personality too”.
Does all this sound too much of a minefield? Are escorts really so insecure? After all we spend our working life with men who desire us. I think as long as a compliment is genuine, escorts, just like any other women, will be happy to receive them.